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Saturday, April 14th: Free Yoga Workshop

April 2, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

Come join us for a free two hour workshop on

Saturday, April 14th from 9:00-11:00 am at the Resource Center.

Contact Nina Payne to reserve your space at ncpayne@aol.com.

Explore how to…

  • Have less stress and tension in your life.

• Have less pain and discomfort in your everyday movement.

• Bring new awareness into your daily life through yoga, breath, work, and meditation.

• Transform stress, fatigue, and pain into a balanced and healthy lifestyle that works.

• Nourish your body, mind, and spirit with new understanding.

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Filed Under: Blog, Events, Fitness & Excercise, Resource Center Tagged With: oceanside, Resource Center, workshoop, yoga

Friday, April 6th: Movie Night “Hedwig and the Angry Inch” (2001)

April 2, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

The North County LGBTQ Resource Center will be showing the 2001 film

“Hedwig and the Angry Inch”

Come and join us on Friday, April 6th @ 6:30 PM @ the Resource Center.  Event is FREE.

A transexual punk rock girl from East Berlin tours the US with her rock band as she tells her life story and follows the ex-boyfriend/bandmate who stole her songs.  The film was adapted and directed by John Cameron Mitchell, who also portrayed the title role.  The music and lyrics are by Stephen Trask.

In 2001, the film won the Best Director and Audience Awards at the Sundance Film Festival as well as Best Directorial Debut from the National Board of Review, the Gotham Awards, and the Los Angeles Film Critics Association. Mitchell received a Golden Globe nomination for Best Actor and the Premiere magazine “Performance of the Year Award”.

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Friday, March 30th: Movie Night “But I’m a Cheerleader” (1999)

March 28, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

The North County LGBTQ Resource Center will be showing the 1999 film

“But I’m a Cheerleader”

Come and join us on Friday, March 30th @ 6:30 PM @ the Resource Center.  Event is FREE.

Confident and opinionated, 17-year-old Megan is a high school student who has it all.  She’s popular, pretty, a model student, dates the captain of the football team and is a cheerleader. But she’s also a vegetarian, likes Georgia O’Keefe and hates kissing her boyfriend, leading her horrified parents to conclude that she’s… a lesbian!  Their solution is to send Megan to True Directions, a “rehabilitation camp” run by homophobic counselor Mary Brown. At first, Megan resists “rehabilitation.” Then she meets Graham, a sexy tomboy who shows her exactly what her “true direction” is.

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Palomar College LGBT Theatre & Performance, “Last Summer at Bluefish Cove” – April 13th-22nd

March 28, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

April 13-22

Last Summer at Bluefish Cove

by Jane Chambers

Directed by Michael Mufson

Friday, Saturday, 8pm; Sunday, 7pm; Thursday, 4pm

O2 Performance Studio, Palomar College, San Marcos

$12 General, $10 Seniors and Staff, $8 Students, Open seating

Click here for additional information and tickets.

With comedic dialogue, sensitivity to human nature and tender treatment of her characters, Jane Chambers offers a compelling love story revealing universal truths within the lesbian experience and their effect on relationships with family, children, parents and careers.

Last Summer at Bluefish Cove is important in theater history as the first mainstream, high quality script featuring well crafted gay characters in a compelling love story revealing universal truths within the lesbian experience.

The central character is a vibrant, self-confident woman named Lil Zalinski, who is spending the summer alone at a beach cottage in a small enclave that has been a lesbian haven for 30 years. Also at the cove are her dearest friends, three couples, including a couple of former lovers. There”s Earth mother Rae and her partner, Annie, an acclaimed sculptor who is Lil”s best friend; Kitty Cochrane, a doctor turned best-selling author of feminist books, and her partner-secretary, Rita; and rich dowager Sue with her girl-toy, Donna.

Into their company arrives Eva Margolis, a straight woman who mistakenly rents a cottage in their community. The first act is an often hilarious series of scenes in which the lesbian characters try to hide their orientation from the outsider. Each character fears being “outed,” but Kitty has the most to lose because her credibility as feminist scholar would be completely undermined. But things are complicated by a growing friendship between Eva and Lil, who feels a protective instinct toward the newcomer.

It turns out that Eva has just left her husband, partly inspired by Kitty”s best selling feminist manifesto, The Female Sexual Imperative. As Eva begins to fit into the community, Lil, a self-described “alley cat,” finds herself really in love for the first time, and Eva blossoms under the wiser woman”s wings. Their midsummer idyll is interrupted by a return of Lil”s cancer, and the possibility of death brings a wonderful urgency to the relationship. This play is not so much about women in love as it is about love and friendship itself, and the many varieties that exist

The friendships, the laughter, the love, the fears of being outed, the difficulties of being gay and how it affects relationships with family, children, parents and careers, the demonstrations of what the painful price could be for a gay life 30 years ago in everyday America, had never before been told with such respect. Chambers” comedic dialogue, sensitivity to human nature and tender treatment of her characters help the play transcend preconceptions and show the universality of these women’s journeys, whether straight or gay.

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Filed Under: Art & Culture, Blog, Events, Local/State Tagged With: art, jane chambers, palomar college, performance, play, san marcos

Saturday, May 19th: “We Are Family” the Annual Fundraiser Gala @ the Oceanside Museum of Art

March 14, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

Click on the image below for more information and to purchase tickets for the 2nd Annual Fundraiser Gala.

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Events, Gala, Resource Center Tagged With: fundraiser, gala, may 9th, north county lgbtq resource center, oceanside museum of art

Lesbians in North County (LINC)

March 14, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

LINC is a grassroots organization that provides a safe and open environment for women seeking support and social activities.  We coordinate social activities, sponsor events, and provide a network for our community. As a collective body, we will be a powerful voice and a visible sign for our integration into the greater community.  Click here for additional information regarding the LINC program.

Meets every 3rd Friday of each month from 7:00-9:00 PM at the Resource Center.

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Support Groups for Men: Coming Out & HIV+ Groups @ the Resource Center

March 14, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

Below is a list of the various men’s groups offered at the Resource Center.  All events and groups take place at the Resource Center and are free unless otherwise noted.  Please contact us at 760-672-1848 or info@resourcecenter.org for additional information.

Men’s Coming Out Support Group

A group to support men who are straight, gay, bi, trans or questioning in coming out and being out.  If you need support in being comfortable telling people who you are, this is the group for you.  We believe that everyone is always coming out in one way or another.

Meets on the 1st and 3rd Monday of each month at 6:30 pm at the Resource Center.

Men’s HIV+ Support Group

A supportive group for men, who are HIV+, to discuss feelings about disclosure of HIV status, health care and medication use, sex, substance use, isolation and community-building, dating and relationships, life transitions, and other relevant issues.

Meets every Wednesday from 6:00-7:15 pm at Resource Center.

This group is proudly sponsored by Fallbrook Pharmacy.

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Filed Under: Blog, Coming Out, HIV/AIDS, Resource Center, Support Group Tagged With: aids, bi, coming out, gay, hiv+, lgbt, men, support groups

Mental Health Assessment & Referral Program @ the Resource Center

March 14, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

Mental Health Referral Program

The Center for Wholeness will be providing counseling intake sessions on Fridays from 2pm- 7pm at the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. Those that qualify based on the intake background and financial need, will be seen for free on Saturdays at the Center for Wholeness located at 1059 Sycamore Ave, Vista, California, on a as needed basis and as scheduling permits. The Center for Wholeness is proud to partner with the North County LGBTQ Resource Center in providing these much needed service to our community. Should you have any questions or wish to begin to schedule an intake, please contact info@thecenterforwholeness.org to begin the scheduling process. Please mention the North County LGBTQ Resource Center in your email.

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LGBT World News: Fear as death squads hunt Iraq’s gays and “emos”

March 14, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

Photo By SAAD SHALASH/Reuters Mon, Mar 12, 2012

BAGHDAD (Reuters) – The man holds up two pictures of his friend, which tell the story of what it now means to be gay in Iraq.

One photograph, which the man keeps on his mobile phone, is a portrait of a handsome youth with a stylish haircut. The other, a printed snapshot taken last month, shows the body of the same young man lying sprawled in the back of a white pickup truck, his head disfigured by blunt trauma.

According to a police report, Saif Asmar was found bludgeoned to death in the afternoon on February 17.

“They laid him down on the pavement and smashed his head with a cement block,” said his 25-year-old friend, who works as a doctor’s assistant and also as a gay activist under the pseudonym Roby Hurriya. He did not disclose his real name.

Homosexuals have lived in fear in Iraq for years, notably since religious militia claimed control of the streets in the sectarian warfare that followed the U.S.-led invasion of 2003, which toppled Saddam Hussein. But Hurriya – whose adopted surname means “Freedom” in Arabic – says a surge in killings in the past two months is by far the worst he has seen.

Since the start of this year, death squads have been targeting two separate groups – gay men, and those who dress in a distinctive, Western-influenced style called “emo”, which some Iraqis mistakenly associate with homosexuality.

At least 14 young men have been bludgeoned to death in the last three weeks in east Baghdad, an area dominated by Shi’ite Muslims, according to local security and medical sources who spoke to Reuters on condition of anonymity.

Killings have been reported by other methods and in other cities as well. Since national authorities are not recording the incidents as a special category, the total is not known.

In recent days, militiamen from Shi’ite groups, mainly in the Sadr City district, have circulated lists of names of people targeted for killings. The threats refer to “obscene males and females”, understood to refer to both gays and emos – an American teenage subculture of spiky hair and black clothes that has spread to Iraq.

Hurriya says he believes at least 200 men have been murdered in recent years either for being gay or appearing effeminate. He personally knows 66 of them.

During an interview at the Reuters bureau in central Baghdad, he opens a satchel and brings out a series of photographs of bludgeoned corpses of young men found on the streets of Baghdad. He has been documenting the killings and running a safe house for gay men.

“We, as the gay community are connected, like a string. We know if anything bad has happened to any of us,” he said.

“A Shi’ite cleric from Sadr City who is gay called me a few days ago and told me that some gay people were killed and their bodies were dumped near Sadr City. He helped me reach the place and take some photos.”

“LET THEM KILL ME. THEY KILLED MY FRIENDS”

The apparent spread of the violence in recent weeks to heterosexual youth who dress in emo style has caused panic among young Iraqis, many of whom have experimented with various forms of Western dress as war subsided and militia left the streets.

Emo, a once-obscure genre of American “emotional” punk rock, became a mainstream subculture in the West in the past decade. In Iraq, it appeals to youth – male and female – hungry for self-expression in a conservative, often violent culture.

Iraqi youths who call themselves emos typically wear long or spiky hair, tight jeans, T-shirts, silver chains and items with skull logos. In recent days they have been rushing to barbers to get their hair cut.

Shops which sprouted in recent years selling clothing and jewelry with skulls and band logos have quickly taken down their emo displays.

Iraq’s government, dominated by the Shi’ite majority that was oppressed under Saddam, may not be helping. The Interior Ministry added to the atmosphere of menace last month by releasing a statement that labeled the emo culture “Satanism”. It said a special police force would stamp it out.

Hafidh Jamal, 19, who works in a shoe store in the upscale Karrada neighborhood, said he used to dress in black with his hair long in the back, but he fled his home in Sadr City this week and cut his hair. Two friends were killed for dressing in the emo style, he said.

“Let them kill me. They killed my close friends,” he told Reuters. “I support emo. I love this phenomenon.”

“PLEASE EXCUSE US IF WE KILL YOUR BROTHER”

Baghdad’s gays are searching for places to hide.

One man, who goes by the name Haifa, said he fled Iraq for Syria during the sectarian violence in 2006, but returned to Baghdad two months ago because of war now in Syria.

Though homosexual behavior is widely scorned, even illegal, in much of the Arab and Muslim world, Haifa had been able to live fairly comfortably as a gay man in Syria – as many gays had in Iraq under Saddam’s largely secular rule.

But in Baghdad, where clerics who condemn homosexuality as a sin now hold sway, he quickly learned he would be hunted. A picture from a few months ago shows him with long hair and a black T-shirt. He now wears his hair short under a baseball cap and dresses conservatively in a wool coat and rugby shirt.

“When I returned with shoulder-length hair, everybody, including my family, warned me that with that hair I could be killed. I left my house in Kadhimiya and now I move from place to place, afraid of getting killed,” he told Reuters.

“Some people phoned my brother and said, ‘We will kill your brother if we catch him. Please excuse us if we do.’”

Haifa is now trying to get a passport so he can escape Iraq and go to neighboring Jordan where he hopes he will be safe.

Noor, a 19-year-old gay man, fled Baghdad a week ago for Basra in the south, hoping he would be safer, after he heard about the murders.

“We are young men, and everywhere in Iraq we should be free to do whatever we want, to wear what we like, cut our hair how we like,” he told Reuters.

“We have not hurt anyone. Why are they doing this to us?”

(Additional reporting by Saif Tawfiq and Ahmed Rasheed in Baghdad and Mohammed Kadhim in Basra, Iraq; Editing by Alastair Macdonald)

Full article can be found here.

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Max’s Corner: Equality Voters Could Change North County

March 11, 2012 By nclgbtqrc

Article by Max Disposti, Founder and Executive Director of the North County LGBTQ Resource Center, March 9, 2012.

Here we go, another election year. It is like politicians never stop campaigning. They bombard us with promises of a better tomorrow when many of us have been left with the worst: unemployment, bank’s going after our homes and a public system that can’t afford to educate our children.

If you are like me, discouraged by the lack of political alternatives and disappointed by promises of a system that seems to care only about the one percent of the population, voting may become a true effort. However, I am also an American by choice, a bi-national citizen aware of the enormous social and political transformations that our civil rights movement has brought to the rest of the world and I am an equality voter.

I believe that human rights and social justice can progress not only with but also through the electoral democratic process. Every time minority groups have increased their participation to vote, their civil rights and living conditions have improved. It was true during the struggle against segregation it is still true today.

In a place like North County, where our LGBT families continue the struggle to gain basic respect and recognition, not voting represents a missed opportunity for change but also a tragic mistake that can cost us the gain of visibility for many years to come. While the opening of the North County LGBTQ Resource Center can create community and provide a safe place for many, this effort alone will not be enough to overcome the stigma and homophobia that has affected our community for years.

Our North County politicians disrespect us because we have not made them accountable for their actions when it comes to supporting equality issues at the ballot box. When our politicians ignore us, local institutions follow: police stations, hospitals and school districts soon learn how to ignore the presence of our LGBT families.

In North County, there are thousands of registered domestic partnerships and marriages and thousands other LGBT individuals that live here. We were a silent presence that became very vocal during the Prop 8 campaign, which ultimately did not matter since only few decided to cast their vote.

This is why we have joined with the efforts of the San Diego LGBT Center in supporting a campaign that can help our North County families to understand the importance to register and to vote. The North County LGBTQ Resource Center will be a polling place during the elections and registration forms are currently available at our office.

Equality Voters are not only LGBT individuals, they are our friends and straight allies; parents and cousins; and uncles and coworkers that believe in equality for all and are willing to vote for it.

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